No More Lying: Honoring Your Truth with Self-compassion

Why Authenticity Matters More Than Ever

I grew up in a household—and a society—where the “suck it up” mindset was the expectation. Show up for others with your best energy, and if you had anything left for yourself, well, that was just a bonus.

What did I get from that approach?

Anxiety. High blood pressure. Probably a little low-key resentment and some irrational rebelliousness too.

But let me be clear: I also gained something valuable. I learned resiliency. I learned to trust my ability to figure things out. And, most importantly, I eventually learned to recognize my own limits—an essential skill I carry with me today.

The Turning Point: Choosing Honesty Over Pleasing Others

This is why I won’t lie anymore.

Recently, I made the decision to cancel a meeting—on the day of. In my world, that's a huge no-no. The fear of what people would think, whether they would still want to work with me, and if I was “letting them down” was loud and relentless.

I teetered back and forth for a long time. But ultimately, I sent this message:

“I apologize for the late cancellation, but I will not be able to make the meeting today.

As some of you know, I’m transitioning my parents to the local area and moving myself. We’re kinda at go-time, and my headspace is a bit chaotic.

As I would want you all to do, I need to honor what my body and brain are telling me. I apologize if this caused any inconvenience, and I look forward to seeing you soon!”

Practicing Self-compassion and Integrity

In the past, I would have lied. I would have made up an emergency, an illness, a delay—anything to avoid disappointing others.

But not anymore.

Part of it is taking care of my karmic wheel.
Mostly, though, it’s knowing that it’s okay to honor where my heart, head, and body are.

As a consultant, mental health therapist, and Reiki energy worker, I have a responsibility to show up at my best. You wouldn't want anything less—and honestly, neither would I.

You can tell when someone is just going through the motions.
(True story: the first full-body massage I ever had was from a therapist who spent the whole time talking about her irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) and how much she hated her job. Not exactly a relaxing experience!)

What Happens When You Lead with Authenticity?

Here’s what surprised me the most:

If you’re wondering how people responded to my cancellation, let me share one reply that stayed with me:

"Thank you—your message truly put me at ease. It's so much easier to honor what our minds and bodies need when we're surrounded by others who respect and support that as well."

This is the power of showing up in alignment.

No matter how you are called to show up in the world—whether personally or professionally—do it with openness, honesty, resiliency, and self-inclusion.

You are part of the equation, too.

Final Thoughts

Authenticity isn’t just a buzzword—it’s a daily practice.

It’s in the choices we make to rest instead of push, to speak honestly instead of perform, to honor our limits instead of override them.

You don’t have to lie to protect your relationships.

Honoring your truth can actually deepen them.

Ready to realign with your truth?

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